is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be
undefiled..." - Hebrews 13:4
and non-Christians in American get divorced at about the same rate.
If you facing abuse or threats of any nature, find help locally
immediately. (Check the blue pages in the front of your phone book.)
A web site such as this can only provide general, Biblical based
information. The intent of these web pages is to get couples to
think about what they are doing BEFORE they get married. This pages
provide information about what the Bible says about marriage and
divorce. Guidance as to what you should do, if you are facing marital
problems, depends on the situation. You should find a Christian
marriage counselor who can help you. The following web site provides
information about counseling:
does the Bible say about divorce?
Would you be
willing to marry someone who lies to you?
Are you willing
to marry someone who says, "We'll be married for a few years
and then maybe we'll find other partners"?
you answer, "NO!" to these questions. But in American
today half the people who get married are saying "yes"
to at least one of the above questions.
If the answers
to the above are "no", that means that divorce is NEVER
an option. When we get married we promise "to death do us part."
So we can only get a divorce if: we lied when we made that promise,
or we took the meaning of these words to be something other than
- What this tells us is that we need to be very careful about who
we select as our lifelong partner. Making a good decision before
marriage, reduces the heartaches and problems after marriage. Getting
married is not like buying a car or even a house. THIS IS A LIFELONG
don't get married JUST for love; don't be blinded by love - marry
someone whom you can live with, for the rest of your life. There
is more to marriage than romantic feelings.
someone and expect them to change after you are married, they won't.
- Answering "yes" to the above two questions tells us
that divorce is not an option. If we stick to our promises, and
agree that "till death do us part" means physical death,
divorce is not an option. Don't try to spin it to say, "I
meant until the death of our love." Nor does it mean "Until
we've grown apart and our relationship has died."
The common understanding
of the promise, "until death do we part" is that it means
our physical death. If you meant anything else when you made that
promise, you should have made your meaning clear to your partner
before you got married.
Based on this,
when there are problems in our marriage (and there will be many
serious problems) our focus can only be on making the marriage work,
and not on doing things that harm our marriage. That is the only
brings up several issues. The following questions all were asked
in emails we've received. The answers assume the people involved
are Christians. When talking about marriage and divorce, the Bible
is talking about Christians.
Answers To Your Emails and Questions About Marriage:
a) What do I
do if I don't love my spouse
b) What about
an abusive spouse?
c) I'm willing
to stand by my wedding vows, but
my spouse is not.
d) What if I
made a bad decision
and picked the wrong person?
e) My spouse
is cheating on me. What do I do?
f) I'm divorced,
but I've met someone and I want
to get married again. What do I do?
divorced and remarried. This means I'm committing adultery.
What do I do?
h) My spouse
is lying to me and hiding things from me. Can
we get separated?
i) What if my
spouse is brain damaged?